January 05th, 2018

Self Love is not a destination it is a daily practice.....

I  used to be a people pleaser, self sacrificer, didn't like confrontation, do anything to keep the peace then I decided to love myself ....
This is what I did!!

• Claim Your Power - Started working with the Divine Feminine - Goddess energy - balanced my masculine & feminine aspects - Ground my Divine Presence 
• Speak Your Truth - Through Kundalini Yoga strengthen my third and fifth chakras - for empowerment and speaking my truth. This did go a little over the top and I admit sometimes I spoke blunty!! I later balanced this by speaking grounded from my root, empowered by my 3rd chakra, love flowed from my heart and my truth was then able to be spoken but from a strong compassionate heart centred space. I'm working on speaking from my aura as it is from this space that we can truly communicate with everyone!! Conscious Communication!
  • Gemstones used: Red Jasper, Carnelian, Tigers eye, Rose Quartz, Lapis Lazui, Larimar
  • Kundalini Mantra - Adi Shakti 
  • Kundalini Kriya- Nabhi Kriya 40 days
• Set Boundaries -  to do this I needed to have strong foundations, so more work on my root chakra, so that I felt really safe, held, and grounded. I could meet my own needs knowing that nothing outside of me would ever be able to really give me security. I had to find that within myself.  Then from a strong 3rd chakra and a open heart I was able to start to put my needs first. I could start listening to what I needed, sometimes this feels selfish, putting yourself first but it is the only way to truly love yourself and to be honest I realised that when I wasn't doing this I wasn't helping anyone. I was enabling others to keep repeating habits and patterns that were unhealthy, once I stopped playing the game they could no longer carry on the destructive behaviour. Sometimes we feel we are not being loving when we are firm and detach from the drama of others games but in truth it is when we get involved in the games and the drama that we are not truly being loving to ourselves or others. 
• Love Yourself - Take responsibility for your Own Happiness!!
  • Positive affirmations, practice gratitude, be authentic, become your own best friend, start practices of self-worth, listen to your intuition, let yourself feel your feelings, love yourself.....

''When I accept myself, I am freed from the burden of needing you to accept me'' Dr Steve Maraboli

• Let go of Expectation! Stop Assuming!!
  • You can never know what someone else is thinking, don't ever assume to know!! Until you have mastered yourself  you will come from your own experiences, your own perception and judgements. 
  • Get to know yourself inside and out. Own and love your shadow self. Become aware, aware of yourself, your mind, your motives, your projections. When you know yourselves, your body, your energy you can then become aware of when others are projecting onto you. This is a skill of mastery, we have to master ourselves!! 
  • Accept we are all mirrors for each other. If someone triggers you, take the time to look at yourself before you project back, before you re-act. Learn to act. Everything is an opportunity for self growth, for self love. But to truly love ourselves we must take responsibility, own our stuff and work on it.
• Self love is about being real, its about stepping up, owning everything you do, say, feel and think. We are the creators of our reality. Everything that is happening to and around you on some level you have created. 
• Come face to face with your truth - eye to eye with your soul!!!
• Change is the only Constant - remember everything is always in motion, nothing is permanent, there is always movement... -
  • Emotion is just simply energy in motion -  All emotion is good, embrace them all that is what makes us human. We have been conditioned to believe that there are positive and negative emotions, let go of conditioning, allow all emotions as they are needed, it is our human way of expressing energy. When we deny it that energy gets stuck within our bodies and creates dis-ease... Let it flow.....
• Self love is a path, a journey, it will never end, it is a daily practice, enjoy ........

''Perhaps we should love ourselves so fiercely that when others see us they know exactly how it should be done''                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Rudy Francisco